Violette Thorngate Exquisite Dominance



  • My Amazon Wishlist - For specific items I'd like to add to my collection or for inspired gifting
  • Secrets In Lace - Classic Lingerie and Stockings
  • Girdle Bound - I wear them nearly  every day. Stockings, shapewear and foundation garments in every colour of the rainbow
  • Mr. S Leather - Quality gear for bondage and torture available online or in their SF shop. Let's go pick something out together!
  • Paxton Gate - For Plants, Curiosities, and Evil Little Tools
  • Flora Grubb - Everything for The Elegant Gardener
  • Vosges - Simply the Best Chocolatier, and woman-owned
  • M. Recchiuti - Simply the Best *Local* Chocolatier
  • Marage Frères - My tea purveyor of choice (a preference for red teas)
  • Bellocq - My other tea purveyor of choice (favourite blend is Hindu Holiday)



  • Fantasy Makers - A friendly place to explore your kink in The East Bay.
  • The Center for Sex and Culture - Providing judgment-free education, cultural events, a library/media archive, and other resources to audiences across the sexual and gender spectrum; researching and disseminating factual information, framing and informing issues of public policy and public health.
  • The Citadel - BDSM classes and play parties for the whole leather community
  • The Society of Janus - Calendar of classes, parties, workshops
  • St. James InfirmaryCompassionate and non-judgmental healthcare and social services for all sex workers; a favourite organization for donations
  • National Coalition for Sexual Freedom - Advocating for our privacy and freedom, links to kink-aware therapists


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